What can you do about what’s already been done?

The simple and obvious answer to this question is…to learn from it. Everything that happens in your life has a purpose – and is an experience from which you grow and learn and develop.I assume this question is in regards to self-doubt, or perhaps low self-esteem issues…maybe in relation to regrets, or mistakes made – failures.

It is not easy to come to terms with negative emotions, caused by perceived destructive circumstances (failures) that have happened in the past. It will do you no good, if well-meaning people tell  you your glass is still half-full, so get over it!

Unfortunately, it is not always as easy as that.

If you perceive yourself to have failed at something it can have dramatic effects on your self-belief.

In my own case, my self-confidence disintegrated further with each successive failure I perceived I had. With each regret or worry about what already been done.

Self-belief is the key to improving low self-esteem

Eventually I completely lost faith (trust) in myself.

I entered a negative cycle of expectation and expected, and mentally predicted, failure in everything I tried, and, of course then nothing ever did work out as I wanted. Then I gradually sank into the throes of depression about it all.

Then I analysed why I had failed and then I tried another approach.

I would not give up. I realised all the problems I was facing, were actually helping me, not hindering me. Although, of course, it was difficult at the time for me to appreciate this.

Eventually, through persistence, and a more positive outlook synchronicity began to take over my life. One thing would lead to another, and then to another, and then I began to get a little success.

I gained confidence in myself again. I was not a failure…

Self-belief! This was the catalyst to my further success.

We all have different personality traits and needs and wants – this is the very essence of being human. But, you will never learn – and grow, unless you occasionally take risks. And remember you learn more from failures than from successes.

So, embrace failure. Enjoy it. Don’t worry about it… It is just an experience. An experience that will ultimately lead you to ever higher achievements in later life.

Of course, there is far more to learning from things that have already been done, than suggested in this little snippet here…

But, if am I correct in my interpretation of your question regarding past perceived failures leading to self-esteem issues simply remember…

EVERY challenge is a ‘learning experience’

You have to experience negative challenges, to learn from. In the same way as you have to have positive experiences. And one cannot exist without the other.

It is important – vital perhaps, for a complete ‘cure’ for low self-esteem – or anything, to understand much more about the wider implications of existence than merely the apparent ‘physical’…the purely (mainstream) ‘science’ view.

You will benefit far more from any treatments for any self-esteem issues you may have, if you have a more complete understanding of the real nature of reality.

For a ‘cure’ – not simply (temporary) treatment of symptoms… you have to recognise and understand the underlying causes of your self-esteem issues.

In extreme circumstances a one to one individual, in depth, interview with a knowledgeable homeopathy therapist may be required to improve your self-esteem and rebuild your self-belief.

But, before you go down that route – reading my latest book

‘Be All You Were MEANT To Be’ The ULTIMATE Guide to Banishing Low Self-esteem and Depression Permanently – WILL help you to, at least, understand and come to terms with the causes of your low self-esteem. Once you do this – the ‘cure’ becomes easier. You start by removing all the causes of low self-esteem. The declination of your self-worth – the regrets, the perceived mistakes.

You will learn that mistakes are not mistakes. They are learning experiences you were deemed to need at that particular point in time. Nothing is random in life. If you can put this into your mind, it becomes virtually impossible to have regrets about something you have done.

Geoff Barra
B.Ed(Hons) Leicester DeMonfort University.Education; sport, fitness, physiology and psychology. Qualified in Physical Education. In 2013 studied the equivalent of a PhD in meta-physicality and quantum physics, and all aspects of incorporeal existence. Combined extensive background in physiology, psychology and Biology with new found knowledge covering all aspects of ‘reality’ to a self-development mentor.